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The Garden => How-To => Topic started by: LoveKinkHoney on December 22, 2008, 02:18:46 PM
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My boyfriend are just beginning to explore our relationship. Tomorrow, he says we are going to play dungeon. This sounds highly appealing to me, but I'm still quite nervous about the idea. Any opinions or suggestions?
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Welcome LKH to the forums! OK not the usual moderator for this section and not a BDSM person per say but some general tips:
1. Make you you're truly ready. Best things need no rushing. If still nervous, let him know it's not time yet to do it.
2. ALWAYS have your Safety word if you need to stop or reset rules on what you wish to do. Make it easy to remember and unique from the sex so it's not confused elsewhere in conversation during your dungeon play.
3. Safe sex always! Know what you're both comfy with, and use protection as you see fit.
Hope that helps, and others float in and out of here when they can be on. Good luck and take care!
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Sadly, he woke up too late for us to play. :(
But he bought me an absolutely adorable collar so I'm content.
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Ok, being someone who engages in said kink. Here is my verbal coinage (2 cents):
First, and foremost- has he done play like this before? If not then the two of you need to sit down and talk about what does/doesn't excite you. You can be seriously hurt by someone who plays with items that they have no experience with. Look at websites that carry 'toys' of the trade, see what looks exciting.
Second, when you have explored and reached conclusions as to what you'd like to try... set some ground rules i.e. safe words... colors often work well red- stop what you're doing, yellow- ease up, and green- keep it coming. There is a common misconception that if you safeword, all is done, it doesn't have to be. It's just an indication for him to know where your thresholds are.
Third, if you don't have the time to peruse the web, then keep it light. Maybe some light bondage and the usual (I say that loosely) sex toys kept about. It's amazing what a vibrator feels like when you're helpless to squirm about *sighs dreamily*
Like Haru said, play safe. Practice safe sex if you both haven't been tested, but first and foremost, explore the kink slowly. Last thing you need to do is explain unexplainable bruising or cuts because of being careless (not intentionally, but playing with a implement that he has no experience with).
Have fun and explore away!!!
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Are you sure he didn't mean dung eon which is to do with dinosaur poo?