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The Garden => General => Journal prompts => Topic started by: littledragon on September 14, 2020, 09:32:38 PM
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“There’s a trick to the ‘graceful exit.’ It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.” ― Ellen Goodman
I have had some amazing splits, where each party is blessed to grow in a different direction and some pretty damned ugly ones.
I'm sure we've all seen more of the latter. Do you agree?
Tell me about your most recent relationship end. Who was it with and how did it end?
Whose choice was it?
Did you have time to prepare or was it sudden?
Are you still grieving the loss of someone in your life? It’s natural to want to avoid feeling pain and to escape from it through activities. But, in order to heal it’s important to allow yourself to truly feel and move through your emotions. Use your journal to pour out those feelings: anger, pain, hurt, guilt, relief. When words fail, use colored pencils or paint to express yourself. Expressing your emotions creatively can be both cathartic and comforting.
So, yes, i do grieve... i have had therapy about it, too, and have gone through so many of those steps... and when I remember to think, it isn't him or the relationship that I mourn - it's the ideal of it
My journal is painted red... and that's okay. That's what it's for.
What regrets do you have about the relationship itself or the way it ended? If you could have a do-over for the ending, what would you do differently?
What tools did you use to heal?
self compassion is really easy to practice on the lips and so much harder to live in the heart and soul, isn't it?
What are some tools for you to become more self-compassionate and learn that skill?
Consider the following quote by Ashly Lorenzana: “The end of a relationship is not always a failure. Sometimes all the love in the world is not enough to save something. In these cases, it is not a matter of fault from either person. Some things cannot be, it’s as simple as that.”
Do you still have questions about why a relationship ended? Perhaps a close friend simply stopped talking to you and you don’t know why? If you could have a face-to-face conversation with that person, what would you say? What questions would you ask? Is it possible to contact that person and have that conversation? What would it take for you to reach out?
Focus on the positive. Looking back, what have you learned about yourself and about relationships in general? What insights and benefits have you gained from having that particular relationship and going through that particular ending? And in what ways have you grown as a
person?
In what ways are you a stronger, more evolved and compassionate human being as a result of going through a relationship ending? How do you express this growth in your current relationships?
So... down to the nitty gritty of healing through journaling I have a few prompts to assist in healing
Describe what your ex looks like, including at least one physical defect (come on, even supermodels have at least one body part that is less than perfect, even if it’s just an oddly shaped pinkie toe).
What do you miss about your ex? What don’t you miss about your ex?
When did you first realize you guys were headed toward a break-up?
What was the mental clue of "oh crap"?
What was sex like with your ex?
what are you looking for in your next (or more in your current) relationship that differs from the last?
What is better about your life without your ex?
What do I want my life to be like 3 years from now? 5 years from now?