May 2018 Chatroom Topics

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The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

An active-link copy is here: http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewpage.php?page=BDSM_Topics

May 1
Advice for New Lifestylers

http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm
May 2
50 Shades of BDSM Myths

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
https://ind.pn/2re5EDj
May 3
Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys

https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/
May 4
Rewards and Punishment

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html
May 5
What is BDSM/Philosophy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1
May 6
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/
May 7
Limits/Rules

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm
May 8
Role Play Online and Off

https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/
May 9
Fear in the Scene

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/
May 10
BDSM vs. Abuse

http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/
May 11
Gor

New to Gorean forums? by Dragon  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
Quotes of Gor   http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes
May 12
BDSM and D/s as a Trend

How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post
May 13
Extremes in the lifestyle

BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/
May 14
Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes

13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/
May 15
Tasks

Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/
May 16
Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes

Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/
May 17
BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1
May 18
Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day

Room Slut
Pole Dancing
Harmony
Naughty Trivia
The Ballroom
Serves
May 19
How-To do your favorite BDSM thing

A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12
May 20
DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs

What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm
May 21
Petplay, Animal play, Pony play

BDSM 101: What is Petplay? 
Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/
May 22
BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry

The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm
May 23
Training

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant
May 24
Dangerous BDSM

Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  https://slate.me/25KprXh
May 25
BDSM and the Law

The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/
May 26
Fetishes

The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare
May 27
BDSM in the Media

BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM
May 28
Listening and Communication

How to Really Listen  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-guest-author/how-to-really-listen/
Power of Listening  https://limitsunleashed.com/2014/10/13/the-power-of-listening/
Meta-Communication  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/meta-communication/
On Communication Within a Dom/Sub Partnership  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2014/05/on-communication-within-domsub.html
May 29
Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships

Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html
Emotional Dependency in D/s Relationships  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/emotional-dependency-in-ds-relationships
Submission and Codependency – A Discussion  https://redefinedslave.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/submission-and-codependency-a-discussion/
May 30
Poly BDSM

How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/dominants
Polyamory  http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/polyamory/
Poly relationships and BDSM  https://thecage.co/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=210&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight=
Three’s a Crowd, Four’s a Harem  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=563&chapter=1
May 31
Keeping the Spark Alive

“What Are We Going To Do Today, Dom?” – Some Ideas to Keep A Dynamic… Dynamic  http://dominantguide.com/3734/what-are-we-going-to-do-today-dom-some-ideas-to-keep-a-dynamic-dynamic/
How to Keep Your BDSM Relationship Fresh 
10 principles for healthy 24/7 D/s and M/s  https://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/10-principles-for-healthy-247-ds-and-ms/