I look for honesty this is number 1 and is the foundation of any relationship. And as communication is fundamental and a very important part of the Lifestyle this runs a close second. A sense of humor is also very important to me, if one can't laugh at themselves they are far too serious about life and for me. While I am a masochist and like pain I also value caring very highly, as it is said by a Dominant that I respect deeply "No one likes to play with broken toys". A willingness to teach and learn is a big plus for me. And last but not least shared interests. These are non negotiable. As far as things I am willing to compromise on is likes of food, on movie selections and other various other interests. As far as I am concerned if They have the qualities I have stated the rest is negotiable.