Confused .Help please

[andone]

Hi all.

I'm looking for some advice please as I'm a bit confused about where I am lately.

You see I have a part of me that wants to be a Dom and in control when it comes to sex and the feel of my partner being turned by that gives well a little extra hotness .Another part of me finds the Sub role intriguing weather thats due to my mostly shy and do as asked and don't rock the boat in R/L i'm not sure . The main jist of this arugment if you will is that i'm fine with being what my partner wants from me as long as we both enjoy it at the end of the day.

Lately i'm starting to get more confused like the two parts are saying "Andy your 27 years old time to decide".The problem is I can't .Sometimes I'm on a Dom frame of mind others a Sub and it switches from one to the other without letting up. As the thread title says its starting to become case of what I may want against what I may need and its confusing me greatly at this moment of time.

Any help,advice out there please give.

Thanks
Andy (andone)

[DTM (Wet and grey)]

Hi Andy,

This is all just IMHO.....

There is no reason that you need to "decide" just because you are getting older.  Hell I'm 41 and wonder when I'm going to figure out who and what I really am all the time!

So I would say keep going with the flow and exploring.

And eventually you may find that partner that you need to help you answer your question.

It may be that the switch thing will always be a part of you.

But it's most important to find someone that it works with.  Whatever role you end up in.

And again.... Just IMHO

DTM

[bgreenwivy]

There is such a thing a switch who does both.  Also there is the side of things in personal opinion.  Personally I want to experience things as a sub before I do it to someone else for the simple fact that I want to know what are possible things that could go wrong or issues that need to be addressed.

Think about this as well.  Who you are today won't necessarily be the same person next year.  Your experiences from now until then and further help determine how things will be or how you want them.